We are all often looking for ways to improve our health, wellness, and fitness - whether it be by losing a few pounds, sticking to a new workout routine, or creating more mindfulness in our day. Here at The Burnt Bean, we realize that this is a lifelong process and it isn't about the latest diet trend. Instead, we strive to provide you with strategies to help you reach your goals and create a happier, healthier lifestyle.

  • High-Five!


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    Give yourself a high-five. Seriously. Do it. Right now. Walk to a mirror, raise your arm, and high five your reflection. I’ll wait. Did you do it? How do you feel? Did you smile? Or giggle a little as you did it? Did you make eye contact with yourself? Did …Read More »
  • The Negative Self-Talk Loop

    The Negative Self-Talk Loop

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    The negative self-talk loop is unrelenting. Most days, I can’t catch a break. Some days, I remember to employ strategies learned in therapy to negate and disprove negative thoughts, but lately, even that has only added to the stream of negativity that flows freely through my mind. At the root …Read More »
  • Another Year Gone

    Another Year Gone

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    Dear Danielle, I thought that as the years went by, it would get easier. I mistakenly thought that today would just be another day. When Tyler asked me yesterday how I was doing, knowing your birthday was today, I shrugged, said I felt fine. Today would have been your 37th …Read More »
  • 7 Practices to Improve Intuition

    7 Practices to Improve Intuition

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    This post contains affiliate links and we may earn compensation when you make a purchase using the links included in this post, at no additional cost to you. When dealing with matters of the heart, I’ve learned that I have to wade through the anxiety to find the true intuition. …Read More »
  • Let Your Kids Fail

    Let Your Kids Fail

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    It’s in your grace where they learn to succeed. We all want to protect our children – it’s who we are as parents. They are your flesh, your blood, your sleepless nights, and all of your shining moments. Those kids sitting in front of you covered in jelly and powdered …Read More »
  • The Stories we Tell Ourselves

    The Stories we Tell Ourselves

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    What stories do you tell yourself? Are you aware that you even have a story? When we can separate ourselves from our stories, we can sidestep an imminent argument Yesterday afternoon, after a few hours of work, my phone rang. It was the HVAC technician telling me he arrived for …Read More »
  • Progress, Meet Comfort

    Progress, Meet Comfort

    Recognizing and Quieting Your Comfort Zone Voice Just six days before beginning self-quarantine, I sat in the back row of an Isagenix Super Saturday – an event designed to educate, motivate, and inspire current and prospective enrollees. The room was full with people like myself, eager to learn about how …Read More »
  • It’s OK to Feel Moments of Hopelessness

    It’s OK to Feel Moments of Hopelessness

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    You are not alone. Unless you are streaming television from a subscription service, you can’t escape the around-the-clock Coronavirus broadcasts. Last night, in a matter of five minutes, we watched the death toll increase by seven people. We turned off the TV and, instead, watched as two fire trucks and …Read More »
  • Parents: It’s Our Job to Bolster and Protect the Mental Health of Our Children

    Parents: It’s Our Job to Bolster and Protect the Mental Health of Our Children

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    Especially now, when their world has been turned upside down It wasn’t until my daughter sat silently in the backseat of the car with tears streaming down her face that I realized she was as anxious and overwhelmed by today’s new world as we are. As an educator, I’m embarrassed …Read More »
  • Things to Do During Social Distancing That Aren’t Binge Watching Netflix

    Things to Do During Social Distancing That Aren’t Binge Watching Netflix

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    As an American, our duty right now is to social distance. Whether you believe this is serious or not, our government officials and health organizations do think this is serious. Until they understand the complexities of the new COVID-19 and just how serious this is STAY HOME. This doesn’t mean …Read More »
  • Free Coaching & Accountability Group

    Free Coaching & Accountability Group

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    🔥📣 FREE COACHING & ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP 📣🔥 Beginning Thursday, March 12th!! Join Tyler and me as we countdown to summer 🏖 We want to help you reach your goals! In this free coaching and accountability group, you will receive 100 Days of: ✅ Membership in a private Facebook group ✅ …Read More »
  • Finding a Positive Body Image at 36

    Finding a Positive Body Image at 36

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    I turned 36 in December. Aside from being a lovely perfect square (🛑 math teacher/nerd alert), there is nothing special about this age for me. I’m closer to 40 than I am 30, but that hasn’t bothered me yet. What has plagued me my entire adult life, however, is my …Read More »
  • Challenge Yourself Everyday

    Challenge Yourself Everyday

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    Sometimes the day doesn’t go as planned – especially if you’re someone living with chronic pain. And that’s OK. I used to be one who would beat myself up when I didn’t hit my mark for a run – it would ruin the rest of my day. But somewhere along …Read More »
  • Transformation 2020 – Step 4: Setting Intentions

    Transformation 2020 – Step 4: Setting Intentions

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    A few months ago, I was listening to The Adult Chair podcast titled The Power of Intentions. In this podcast, Michelle Chalfant described the difference between a resolution and an intention, and immediately I was hooked. We all know that resolutions don’t work – most of the time. If you …Read More »
  • Transformation 2020 – Step 3: Make a Declaration

    Transformation 2020 – Step 3: Make a Declaration

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    Today is the day that you decide who you are and where you want to go. If you’ve been following along with the steps to transform your life in 2020, you reflected on the past year and reminded yourself of your values. Now it is time to turn those values …Read More »
  • Transformation 2020 – Step 1: Self-Reflection

    Transformation 2020 – Step 1: Self-Reflection

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    I’m ashamed to report that a majority of my adult life – the time between my high school graduation and my 30th birthday – I didn’t know the power of reflection. I assumed that everything that was happening in my life was a result of things happening TO me, that …Read More »
  • What Does 2020 Look Like for You?

    What Does 2020 Look Like for You?

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    Let’s be honest. 2019 was rough. Based on the posts, funny memes, and comments I see as I scroll through FaceBook, most of you will agree. 2020 cannot get here soon enough. For many, midnight on New Year’s Eve ushers in a new beginning, a new year, a new chance …Read More »
  • 5 Reasons Every Couple Should Attend Couple’s Therapy

    5 Reasons Every Couple Should Attend Couple’s Therapy

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    This post contains affiliate links and we may earn compensation when you make a purchase using the links included in this post, at no additional cost to you. Therapy. When you say that word in a conversation, one of two things typically happens: Therapy?! For what? Your life is so …Read More »
  • My Chronic Pain is Manageable

    My Chronic Pain is Manageable

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    – and other lies I tell myself The pain is excruciating. I can barely breathe. It is so bad that I chose to take a painkiller today – something I don’t ever do because I hate painkillers. I hate the way that painkillers change my mood. I hate how they …Read More »
  • See the Need. Be the Change.

    See the Need. Be the Change.

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    To The Man Stranded at the Gas Station: I saw you when I first pulled in. You were pacing around the gas station, phone in hand, anxiously scrolling. It was clear that you were making phone calls, and whoever you were calling wasn’t answering. I watched you approach another man …Read More »
  • Panic Attacks and Failure

    Panic Attacks and Failure

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    Remember that day that I was bragging about my accomplishments and my dedication to my commitment? I was so proud. And like I said in that post, pride is one of those seven deadly sins. And probably for a good reason. Maybe I put out a bad vibe in the …Read More »
  • Being Proud of Your Commitment

    Being Proud of Your Commitment

    I’m going to brag for a minute because I’m proud of myself. Proud. It’s been made out to be such a dirty word – it’s unbecoming to be proud of oneself. It’s considered a deadly sin, to be proud. But when you work your ass off and you start seeing …Read More »
  • I Said “No.”

    I Said “No.”

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    Have you ever agreed to do something and immediately regretted doing so? Welcome to my life. I do it almost daily because I don’t like telling people “no” – I worry that they won’t like me. I don’t want them to think I am not a team player. I want …Read More »
  • Paralyzed by Fear

    Paralyzed by Fear

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    Where most people see peace, I feel fear. My heartbeat, pulsing in my ears, is deafening. The hair on the back of my neck stands at attention as a shiver runs down my spine. Sweat collects in the folds of my clenched palms and adrenaline floods my veins, making my …Read More »
  • Overcome Self-Doubt

    Overcome Self-Doubt

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    I stand in my own way often. I can find something to be incredibly passionate about – such as starting a new blog – and put in hours upon hours of work to build my passion from the ground up. And then I get it up and running, I receive …Read More »
  • 5 Tips for Surviving Single Parenthood

    5 Tips for Surviving Single Parenthood

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    I recently had a friend send me a text: “Hey gf,” it started. “Think I could vent to you some time on the phone about how freakin hard it is to do this parenting thing alone? I feel like nobody can get it unless you’ve been there. So happy you’ve …Read More »
  • When Your Baby is Hurting

    When Your Baby is Hurting

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    She was quiet when she got in the car. It was only the second week of school, and I could tell something was off. “How was your day, love?” I asked N, knowing full well that this isn’t the question that is going to get me answers. “Fine,” she responded, …Read More »
  • Overcoming Anxiety

    Overcoming Anxiety

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    Last week, I posted my first video blog. It was terrifying – and it took me all day to get it done because I wanted to avoid it. The topic of the video was overcoming anxiety, and today’s post is the written version of that video. How can you overcome …Read More »
  • Am I a Vlogger?

    Am I a Vlogger?

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    What the heck is a vlogger? And why do I want to be one? I don’t. Really. But, here we are. I am taking a course with the creators of It’s A Lovely Life, Pete and Heather. The assignment for Day 3 of Start a Money Making Blog course is …Read More »
  • Let Children be Children

    Let Children be Children

    As I waited for my healthy dinner of take-out tacos from a gas station to be prepared, I scrolled through my Facebook feed, and I came across a post from Assignment: Mom, my latest mom blog obsession. A few weeks ago, as parents were posting happy pictures of their children …Read More »
  • The Moving Meltdown

    The Moving Meltdown

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    We’re moving. Unexpectedly and suddenly. The why is a story for another day. First, we’ll talk about what it’s doing to my head. Anyone who has ever moved understands the stress and pressure it puts on your life. Anyone who has ever been a teacher understands that August – the …Read More »
  • When the Wall Goes Up

    When the Wall Goes Up

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    Thank God for Ke$ha. First, damn, that girl can sing. But most importantly, she has a way of finding the inner peace hidden deep within my soul on even the shittiest of days and bringing it to the forefront. It may take playing “Praying” on repeat my entire drive into …Read More »
  • Meet Danielle

    Meet Danielle

    Danielle is colorful. She’s vibrant. She’s energetic, and she’s loud AF. You hear her long before you see her – or at least you used to. Danielle is my only cousin on my dad’s side, daughter of my dad’s sister. Part Puerto Rican, half black, and a full New Yorker, …Read More »
  • Accepting Vulnerability

    Accepting Vulnerability

    Vulnerability. It’s a scary word with so many negative connotations. Most humans, I feel, try to avoid feeling vulnerable. We’re scared of what could happen if we allow ourselves to feel any hint of vulnerability. In my non-therapist opinion, I believe that vulnerability is the start to every argument, disagreement, …Read More »
  • Twelve Shots of Espresso

    Twelve Shots of Espresso

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    I broke myself. Twelve shots of espresso in five hours. Even a seasoned coffee drinker would struggle with this, I think. This was the start of my search for the perfect coffee shop – and it was a quick lesson in pacing. After compiling a list of all of the …Read More »
  • When Exhaustion Meets Anxiety

    When Exhaustion Meets Anxiety

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    Tyler and I both suffer from anxiety – his typically worse than mine because it’s coupled with severe depression. For the most part, I am usually understanding, patient, comforting, and encouraging. And then there are the times when I am not any of those things.  Like today. When my exhaustion …Read More »
  • The time I was convinced N was going to be abducted

    The time I was convinced N was going to be abducted

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    There are really only three things that can get my anxiety at a paralyzing level: my daughter, our financial situation, and Tyler. Anxiety about anything else is usually managed – I’ll be cranky, angry, or sad, but I can get through my day and pretend I’m OK when needed. But …Read More »
  • At the Mercy of Anxiety

    At the Mercy of Anxiety

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    She’s here again. The Creep. She found the weakness. She set up shop. She’s spouting her war propaganda. You’re no good. You’ll never amount to anything. You fuck everything up. Look at you. You’re disgusting. You’re pitiful. You’re worthless. The Creep brought her friends today – Her elephant is sitting …Read More »
  • My Love Affair with Farmer’s Markets

    My Love Affair with Farmer’s Markets

    I hate to spend money. I’m like a squirrel hiding away acorns for the winter when it comes to money. My anxiety has me believe that at any moment’s notice, my world can come crashing down at my feet, that I am one mishap away from financial ruin. While sometimes …Read More »
  • Mother’s Day Meltdown

    Mother’s Day Meltdown

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    They did everything right. I got to sleep in, breakfast was healthy and delicious, and the espresso was hot and fresh. We went for pedicures and had dinner with my family. At times, we were laughing so hard I was nearly crying – something that hasn’t happened with my family …Read More »
  • That Miserable Stranger and My Dog

    That Miserable Stranger and My Dog

    An open letter to the snobby and judgmental woman at the gym this morning: I was outside in the public space for our apartment building, minding my own business. I brought my dog with me because we just returned from a 30-minute walk, and I wanted to get some of …Read More »