To be a cycle breaker means you are willing to ask the tough questions that relatives couldn’t or wouldn’t ask. It means seeking to understand your behaviors and uncover patterns passed down from previous generations. It requires you to be vulnerable, but the rewards are worth it.
Some families pass on heirlooms from one generation to the next. Sometimes those heirlooms are valuable pieces of jewelry or furniture. Sometimes it is a box of letters our great-grandfather sent home to our great-grandmother during the First World War. For others, rather than a valuable or sentimental item, the history of generational dysfunction or trauma is passed from one generation to the next.